Being Who You Were Meant to Be

Have you lost your mind?

I mean literally – have you ever suffered from amnesia of any sort and experienced the incredible disconnect that comes from not knowing who you are?

If you haven’t experienced this, imagine not knowing what foods you like, what makes you laugh, where you work, your favorite sports teams or stores, what pumps you up or what helps you unwind at the end of the day. Imagine not having a clue about the kind of person you get along best with, never mind those you have built relationships with or who you love.

As freeing as that can be, doesn’t it also sound scary and uncomfortable?

Knowing these things about ourselves is what helps us feel comfortable in our own skin and ultimately really excel in life.  So with or without amnesia let me ask you this…

Do you know who you are? 

There are a huge number of people who have not suffered amnesia but still couldn’t answer many deep-reaching questions about themselves. Sure they might know their favorite drink, restaurant or vacation spot…but these are things a close neighbor might know about them and do not indicate an intimate connection or true self-awareness.

I’m not sure what exactly causes us to disconnect from this self-awareness, but I suspect it has to do with how often we are told what to like or dislike, how to act, how to respond to others, who to be attracted to and of course how we should look. This is done by others in our lives, not because they are bad people, but because they too have been raised this way.

This type of upbringing can easily help us disconnect from what we really feel, think, or desire, and focus instead on pleasing others.  We are taught to conform rather than celebrate our uniqueness even though we know variety is the spice of life.

Allowing yourself to take a risk and be you is a very scary prospect.  It means embracing your authentic self and feeling good about it no matter how it might look. This is not just self-awareness (although that is the starting point) but is about total self-acceptance. It is about understanding yourself on the deepest level and knowing you are perfect at being you.

If you haven’t already, I would like to encourage you to take a moment and think about who you are.  What are your gifts (I guarantee you have many), what makes you special, what excites you or what makes you cringe? Change always happens from the inside out and with acceptance can be beautiful and awe-inspiring rather than scary and strange. 

Best of all – you will never fail at the task of being you – that’s impossible.  So don’t wait for a bang on the head to make you tune in. Start today to get to know yourself… and allow the glow of authentic connection to help you be the person you were really meant to be.